Accept yourself

T he world is busy and so is the human trying to match pace with the world. Living day to day, most times going through the mundane yet necessary events in life, so many of us lose our identity. And sometimes you see those so called successful figures at work place or business world that we start feeling smaller than an ant in the grand scheme of things. I am nobody the voice within you screams. I know myself, I have so many short comings, how would I ever get to be where the successful figures are today, I am not like them.

Thank God you are not like everybody else. Imagine a world full of one kind of human. Uniqueness is what makes life interesting and explorable. Imagine a rose trying to be lily, infact imagine if there’s just one kind of flower – all lilies. For birthday, for expressing love, romance, funeral, its just lilies – wont that be monotonous? Good part is, lilies cant think, nor can a rose but Human can. And that’s where it starts. Most people either don’t think or don’t think accurately. Why worry how the other is, how about we ACCEPT ourselves as we ARE.

Accept yourself the way you are. You are perfect as you are. Just that you need to figure who you are and what’s unique about you. Moment you accept yourself and stop worrying, comparing yourself to other, you are on road to happiness. Other human’s strengths should inspire you to be a better version of YOU and not intimidate you.

Be “A Class” yourself rather than being “B Class” someone else. Stop beating yourself down. Road to prosperity starts with acceptance of self. If you are not happy where you are currently in life when it comes to success, remember success is a component of goal setting and achieving. You cant achieve if you don’t accept yourself as who you are. If you messed up, accept it, embrace yourself, pick yourself up, its just fine, go on for one more try. Just cos you didn’t perform your best one day, just cos you didn’t exercise discipline one day doesn’t give you no right to make yourself look smaller. Be happy in your skin, your imperfections are what makes you perfect. Accept and move forward.

And it broke!

11401280_10155639563425459_1440044134284288553_nAnd so I wanted to make sure my watch, old yet favorite – its funny how some old stuff is so close to your heart, sometimes the older it is more connected or should I say comfortable you are with it – does not break when I go out today to play for my team at work, you don’t want to play volleyball with your watch on, unless you want to break it. So while different thought run in my mind, what position should I play, isn’t it too hot, I mean 92 degree to play outdoors, I still carefully take off my watch and there I found out, I broke it. And I did it, no volleyball, but me.

Its that moment when you want to go back 5 seconds and save stuff. And then you smile, because you know, it was just a THING. And the bond is broken, the space is freed out so that something new can come in. A thing is a thing and can be replaced by another thing.

I wish though, relationships worked that way. You unguard your heart and let some people walk in. You develop that bond. But when some choose to move on, you wish it could be replaced, the gap could be filled in. But it does never happen that way. And its easy to wear a smile when your favorite thing breaks but worst when you have to wear a smile when you hurt within for a broken relationship so that the one who hurt you doesn’t know and the outside world doesn’t come to know, but your inside still knows. But hey, that how life is suppose to be lived – with unguarded heart. Use things, love people even though people hurt not things…

Enough of this heavy stuff, for now, I’m excited to buy a new watch. And I think I love Rolex, don’t know why!!

PROclaim first and then be the PRO

Claim that you are the best and then work it backwards. Once you have announced to the world that you are the very best at what you claim to be best at, you will dig for information, you will do whatever is necessary to keep your claim true because you know you can fool others only for so long. Most time people wait to acquire all the information, acquire all the experience before they step forward as an expert. If you don’t call yourself the best who else will? You start, other follow, but they’ll follow only for so long, and that should be enough for you to get to the best. Most times its too late, and it not that you go around lying to the world but the whole deal is that be confident in yourself that you are the very best with what you have and you will be that much better now. Once you claim you are the best, you will fight your fight to stay the best (or maybe that’s the only way you’ll get to be the best). Fear of losing your face is a good motivator for mankind.

Irony of this world is that most smart ones  are full of doubt and most fools are full of confident. Lets change that game!!

In HIS eyes You are indeed THE BEST.

KICK IT OPEN BOSS

KeysThe door to success is always open, there’s no lock, one has to just kick open it & that strong kick is your WORK. The world outside though keeps gathering keys to SUCCESS. Knowledge sure is power, learning more, knowing more is valuable but what about doing more? If someone is willing to get off their butt and put in some serious work, they will acquire the necessary knowledge as well. Just collecting the keys to success will not make you successful, it’ll make you a janitor for sure.  A complex arithmetic problem already has a solution to it, there’s no lock to be opened to get successful. You need to learn & do the basic addition, multiplication, subtraction and division, once you have learnt that & done that, work harder, think harder and you’ll make the complex arithmetic problem look easy, it has a solution to it, just searching for keys wont help.

Don’t make life complicated than its suppose to be. Start with work & what you know. Knowing more and not doing more wont get you anywhere. Know, Do & Know more. Know more, know more, know more is like pointing a gun and staying with Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Aim and never fire.

Don’t worry about it!

Take ActionI have not read one time, WORRY your way to success. If there had been any merits of worrying, I’m sure there would have been enough books written about it, enough quotes around it and it would have been one more key to the otherwise unlocked door to success. But its the worrying habit that keeps putting lock after lock after lock on that door. I wont worry about the stuff that I cant control and for the stuff that I can control why worry. If you find yourself worrying, then Don’t Worry About it!

  1. What you worrying about? Most worry arouses out of confusion. Its when one has too many choice and you don’t want to make a wrong decision. If it was one choice, there’s no thinking involved & its easy. Write down what is that you worrying about. Its the first step. Do it.  Just write.
  2. What can you do about it? If we act, half of the battle is won. Right thinking and right action leads to NO WORRY. List down what can you do based on What you know, What resources you have & Who you know. Sometimes all you need is an empty sheet of paper and pen to break down your challenge. If you can break it down on paper you will break it down in reality. So write down what possible options you have to overcome what you dealing with.
  3. Make a choice – Decide! You are more smarter, more stronger, more wiser that you think you are. Make a choice based on how you feel, what you know from past experience and what you think is apt. By all means consult a better mind (your coach, a mentor, a friend whose ahead in life) if you have one or better yet find one. But if nothing else, YOU make the decision. That’s your plan of action. You may not have a perfect plan but its 10 times better than no plan. No plan mean ALL WORRY NO ACTION
  4. Stick with your Plan – Start following your plan. Stick with it. Don’t let the initial results discourage you. Its amazing when you start working and are lost in work, you wont worry. I am too busy, I have no time for worry – Winston Churchill.

That’s the sure formula I know of overcoming your worry habit. Its a habit, it start small but eats a human at his roots if not attacked carefully. Its the empty mind that creates complication. One who is too busy doing what he needs to do, ought to do, have to do, has no time whatsoever to worry about worrying. So stop worrying start doing.

Yesterday is gone, Tomorrow is not here, Only control you have is on today. What you do today is a preparation for tomorrow, so live fully today to have a better tomorrow.