Your Vision, Their Sight

Somethings in life you don’t plan. You live your life, think about the things close to your heart & and there comes a perfect opportunity for you to realize what you dreamed of for so long.

Growing up, I’ve seen my family work very hard to make a good decent living. Dad being the sole earner did what he could to take care of mom, 3 daughters & a son (yeah, that’s me). He did have to toil hard to handle the weight of the family. He did well.

I’ve seen him scramble, struggle financially but never did he give up once. I still don’t know what kept him going, with little to no real support from his family, he was determined to get us kids to good life. Growing up, somewhere i carried that thought in my mind – “I’ll be your best investment, Mom & Dad”. He could have very well given up, but he didn’t.

Years forward, as the opportunity present, i made it to United States. Was that my goal growing up? No. Am i thankful, i’m in this country? Yes. Do i value America as much as i value my motherland, you bet!

Getting here wasn’t a ticket to good life. I thought it would, but it wasn’t. As software consultant, you do so called good, compared to others, but nothing in terms of the dreams i carried in my heart to payback to my family who has done so much for me.

Knowing nothing, i pursued my career, i was doing OK. Only thing i had learnt from my family is to be successful is to – Work Hard, Never Give up, Principles over Progress, Enjoy life, Never Lose a Smile and Never Ever Ever Ever Give up. Sometimes you get so busy planning the projects at work that you fail to plan your life. That’s what happened to me, I drifted in my life. I lost sight of my goal of making my family proud & paying back. I got busy and then drifted towards fun life  in this land of fun & freedom.

But God has his own way of turning things around. Never did i know meeting that one person at work, will open the flood gates to progress in my life. Ya, i wish those flood gates opened in a day. But it wasn’t like that. All i got was, “A PLAN” that God wanted me to follow. He gave me the plan and i had to work the plan. Many days of trial & error, chiseling myself, crying, wiping up tears, going at it one more time, life is much progressive today. Not only am i thankful for what i have, i’m also thankful what i am able to do with what i have.

So back to the family stuff. Seeing my dad & mom struggle throughout those years, i wanted them to reinvent themselves. In my opinion, there’s nothing better than “Giving” that will make you feel better. Charity brings in a feeling that nothing else would. I wanted my family to enjoy that feeling as well. And what better than offering sight to someone who otherwise may have fallen into the darkness of life.

I floated the idea to my dad to go country side (villages), meet few people, find the ones who need their eyes operated for cataract but aren’t able to  due to financial limitations and you take up the financial burden – ” You bridge the gap, Dad”. He said he’ll think. And i told him, if you do that, take few pics and i’ll post on Facebook and write about you. He said, what book is that. He probably will never read this, but i did what i told him, i will.

Next day, i see 3 missed calls from him.

Me: Dad – what’s up.

Dad : I have 4 people ready to get operated. I need the funds, send me the money.

Never heard so much enthusiasm in his voice. Over span for 4 weeks, i think he got some 20 operations done. My fixed budget for him, sure must have forced him to put a stop to his drive, but i am so thankful i worked evening hours and weekends for so many years on my business after my day job, to secure my finances, so that i could fund His Tiny Charity Drive.

Hearing from my mom, that Dad feels so good about himself these days, was so special. He somewhere knows he made a difference in someone’s life. For most of his life, he may have been a taker, but him being a giver today does make him feel good.  Don’t judge those hazy pics, you have no idea, i had to convince my dad to take those pics and he has no idea about pic quality, he would care less! Picture is not worth 1000 words, your action is.

I never realized when i was going thru the churn myself that one day what i’m doing will payback. i’m glad, i didn’t choose to let the opinion of the world become my reality. I don’t believe in reality, reality is for those who have no dreams to fight for. It’s a new found passion for me & Nidhi (my wife – partner in crime) to grow our business so big that we could fund bigger causes.

And here’s the man himself – My Dad & my amazing mom!!

Dedicating this post to them (they’ll probably never read) and to other hustlers out there working on their dream. You get one life, make the best of it and leave something worthwhile behind!!

And it broke!

11401280_10155639563425459_1440044134284288553_nAnd so I wanted to make sure my watch, old yet favorite – its funny how some old stuff is so close to your heart, sometimes the older it is more connected or should I say comfortable you are with it – does not break when I go out today to play for my team at work, you don’t want to play volleyball with your watch on, unless you want to break it. So while different thought run in my mind, what position should I play, isn’t it too hot, I mean 92 degree to play outdoors, I still carefully take off my watch and there I found out, I broke it. And I did it, no volleyball, but me.

Its that moment when you want to go back 5 seconds and save stuff. And then you smile, because you know, it was just a THING. And the bond is broken, the space is freed out so that something new can come in. A thing is a thing and can be replaced by another thing.

I wish though, relationships worked that way. You unguard your heart and let some people walk in. You develop that bond. But when some choose to move on, you wish it could be replaced, the gap could be filled in. But it does never happen that way. And its easy to wear a smile when your favorite thing breaks but worst when you have to wear a smile when you hurt within for a broken relationship so that the one who hurt you doesn’t know and the outside world doesn’t come to know, but your inside still knows. But hey, that how life is suppose to be lived – with unguarded heart. Use things, love people even though people hurt not things…

Enough of this heavy stuff, for now, I’m excited to buy a new watch. And I think I love Rolex, don’t know why!!

PROclaim first and then be the PRO

Claim that you are the best and then work it backwards. Once you have announced to the world that you are the very best at what you claim to be best at, you will dig for information, you will do whatever is necessary to keep your claim true because you know you can fool others only for so long. Most time people wait to acquire all the information, acquire all the experience before they step forward as an expert. If you don’t call yourself the best who else will? You start, other follow, but they’ll follow only for so long, and that should be enough for you to get to the best. Most times its too late, and it not that you go around lying to the world but the whole deal is that be confident in yourself that you are the very best with what you have and you will be that much better now. Once you claim you are the best, you will fight your fight to stay the best (or maybe that’s the only way you’ll get to be the best). Fear of losing your face is a good motivator for mankind.

Irony of this world is that most smart ones  are full of doubt and most fools are full of confident. Lets change that game!!

In HIS eyes You are indeed THE BEST.


KeysThe door to success is always open, there’s no lock, one has to just kick open it & that strong kick is your WORK. The world outside though keeps gathering keys to SUCCESS. Knowledge sure is power, learning more, knowing more is valuable but what about doing more? If someone is willing to get off their butt and put in some serious work, they will acquire the necessary knowledge as well. Just collecting the keys to success will not make you successful, it’ll make you a janitor for sure.  A complex arithmetic problem already has a solution to it, there’s no lock to be opened to get successful. You need to learn & do the basic addition, multiplication, subtraction and division, once you have learnt that & done that, work harder, think harder and you’ll make the complex arithmetic problem look easy, it has a solution to it, just searching for keys wont help.

Don’t make life complicated than its suppose to be. Start with work & what you know. Knowing more and not doing more wont get you anywhere. Know, Do & Know more. Know more, know more, know more is like pointing a gun and staying with Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Aim and never fire.

Respect YOU

UntitledPeople demand it all the time, they act different from who they are to get it : Self Respect  – often quoted but vaguely understood. So many times you see people working hard on demanding respect and its more they demand, that more they crave for it and lesser they get it.

Self respect has nothing to do with ego, just to portray yourself as tough guy, carry that intimidating personality doesn’t attract people to you. They may do what you ask them to do just out of fear, but deep within they despise you. And it doesn’t take too long for people to overcome fear, the day that fear is lost, your Dear is lost as well.

Self respect is about the respect you carry for yourself. When you respect yourself, others will see it in you, through you and respect you. When “YOU” set a goal for yourself, if you respects that “YOU”, you will give it your best to meet the goal. The respect that you have for “YOU” will determine what you will do. When you don’t have that respect for “YOU” others wont either. Do you love “YOU”, do you respect “YOU”. If you do, then others do as well. It always starts and ends with “YOU”, rest of the world is just a reflection of “YOU”.


The Letter

2015-04-04 01.16.19 In life sometimes when you have travelled the distance, you have seen the world, you come to a point where some ink on paper makes an impression on your heart and deep within you feel you have travelled & you need to continue not just of yourself but for others. And sometime that “others” is not connected by blood but some relations are meant not to start with blood. The letter from someone I see as my lil brother, he’s no lil by no means, you wont call a roaring giant hungry for success lil by any means, just that its the sight of him as my brother that makes me feel a BIG brother. I never knew how it feels to have a brother, never had one, so in my journey to success I found myself being surrounded by so many people who contributed to my success and I gave part of my life for their dreams, and some people came too close to me. I saw my “if-I-had-a-real-brother” in them. Some left me hurt and for some, I do anything, will do anything to see them as SUCCESS, because why would you not do everything and anything to see your lil brother succeed. The journey continues, just that the responsibility of this lil ones dream makes me to demand so much more from myself, which I will and I know how I will. If his words printed on my heart, mine should print on Almighty’s; to give me the strength, the vision, the love – maybe tough love, the heart, the mind, the arms & the legs to get what my brother desires. For some I can fight the lion in his den and win & from some I won’t even give my thought.