Your Vision, Their Sight

Somethings in life you don’t plan. You live your life, think about the things close to your heart & and there comes a perfect opportunity for you to realize what you dreamed of for so long.

Growing up, I’ve seen my family work very hard to make a good decent living. Dad being the sole earner did what he could to take care of mom, 3 daughters & a son (yeah, that’s me). He did have to toil hard to handle the weight of the family. He did well.

I’ve seen him scramble, struggle financially but never did he give up once. I still don’t know what kept him going, with little to no real support from his family, he was determined to get us kids to good life. Growing up, somewhere i carried that thought in my mind – “I’ll be your best investment, Mom & Dad”. He could have very well given up, but he didn’t.

Years forward, as the opportunity present, i made it to United States. Was that my goal growing up? No. Am i thankful, i’m in this country? Yes. Do i value America as much as i value my motherland, you bet!

Getting here wasn’t a ticket to good life. I thought it would, but it wasn’t. As software consultant, you do so called good, compared to others, but nothing in terms of the dreams i carried in my heart to payback to my family who has done so much for me.

Knowing nothing, i pursued my career, i was doing OK. Only thing i had learnt from my family is to be successful is to – Work Hard, Never Give up, Principles over Progress, Enjoy life, Never Lose a Smile and Never Ever Ever Ever Give up. Sometimes you get so busy planning the projects at work that you fail to plan your life. That’s what happened to me, I drifted in my life. I lost sight of my goal of making my family proud & paying back. I got busy and then drifted towards fun life  in this land of fun & freedom.

But God has his own way of turning things around. Never did i know meeting that one person at work, will open the flood gates to progress in my life. Ya, i wish those flood gates opened in a day. But it wasn’t like that. All i got was, “A PLAN” that God wanted me to follow. He gave me the plan and i had to work the plan. Many days of trial & error, chiseling myself, crying, wiping up tears, going at it one more time, life is much progressive today. Not only am i thankful for what i have, i’m also thankful what i am able to do with what i have.

So back to the family stuff. Seeing my dad & mom struggle throughout those years, i wanted them to reinvent themselves. In my opinion, there’s nothing better than “Giving” that will make you feel better. Charity brings in a feeling that nothing else would. I wanted my family to enjoy that feeling as well. And what better than offering sight to someone who otherwise may have fallen into the darkness of life.

I floated the idea to my dad to go country side (villages), meet few people, find the ones who need their eyes operated for cataract but aren’t able to  due to financial limitations and you take up the financial burden – ” You bridge the gap, Dad”. He said he’ll think. And i told him, if you do that, take few pics and i’ll post on Facebook and write about you. He said, what book is that. He probably will never read this, but i did what i told him, i will.

Next day, i see 3 missed calls from him.

Me: Dad – what’s up.

Dad : I have 4 people ready to get operated. I need the funds, send me the money.

Never heard so much enthusiasm in his voice. Over span for 4 weeks, i think he got some 20 operations done. My fixed budget for him, sure must have forced him to put a stop to his drive, but i am so thankful i worked evening hours and weekends for so many years on my business after my day job, to secure my finances, so that i could fund His Tiny Charity Drive.

Hearing from my mom, that Dad feels so good about himself these days, was so special. He somewhere knows he made a difference in someone’s life. For most of his life, he may have been a taker, but him being a giver today does make him feel good.  Don’t judge those hazy pics, you have no idea, i had to convince my dad to take those pics and he has no idea about pic quality, he would care less! Picture is not worth 1000 words, your action is.

I never realized when i was going thru the churn myself that one day what i’m doing will payback. i’m glad, i didn’t choose to let the opinion of the world become my reality. I don’t believe in reality, reality is for those who have no dreams to fight for. It’s a new found passion for me & Nidhi (my wife – partner in crime) to grow our business so big that we could fund bigger causes.

And here’s the man himself – My Dad & my amazing mom!!

Dedicating this post to them (they’ll probably never read) and to other hustlers out there working on their dream. You get one life, make the best of it and leave something worthwhile behind!!

KICK IT OPEN BOSS

KeysThe door to success is always open, there’s no lock, one has to just kick open it & that strong kick is your WORK. The world outside though keeps gathering keys to SUCCESS. Knowledge sure is power, learning more, knowing more is valuable but what about doing more? If someone is willing to get off their butt and put in some serious work, they will acquire the necessary knowledge as well. Just collecting the keys to success will not make you successful, it’ll make you a janitor for sure.  A complex arithmetic problem already has a solution to it, there’s no lock to be opened to get successful. You need to learn & do the basic addition, multiplication, subtraction and division, once you have learnt that & done that, work harder, think harder and you’ll make the complex arithmetic problem look easy, it has a solution to it, just searching for keys wont help.

Don’t make life complicated than its suppose to be. Start with work & what you know. Knowing more and not doing more wont get you anywhere. Know, Do & Know more. Know more, know more, know more is like pointing a gun and staying with Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Aim and never fire.

Barriers – Mind Sets it, You Break it, You Redefine it.

Redefine

Its the mind that sets the barrier & its the mind that breaks it. And its the mind that defines the new limits, new barriers. But its never the same mind.Those could be the barriers in terms of what you can do at your work, what you can accomplish in your business, in terms of your fitness, in terms of having healthy relationships or how you handle criticism. We all understand that its a mind game but where to start tapping into it is always blur. Like it’s said – “The same mind that creates a problem, can never solve it, you need a better mind”. Question always is – How to get a better mind? For sure, you can reach out to the one who has the solution to your problem – that’s a better mind. But how can i house a better mind myself? Start here …

Easiest barrier the mind creates is for your body. Ever wondered, you are bored in your mind first before your body tends to be lazy?

Test your physical endurance, power & strength. Break the limits that your mind has placed on your body. Set new limits, break them and you are on your way to tapping into mind workshop of setting new limits in other areas of your life. Start with 30 mins intense activity , workout, redefine your physical limitation and watch the limit that your mind has set in other areas of your life get redefined as well. Is there a coincident that those that exercise tend to eat better, have better control on “whatiputinmymouth”, are happier, can do more, smile more. Its starts with body and redefines your mind which enriches your soul.

At the end, its all about Mind, Body, Soul. Use body as a tool for your mind to grow!! With a better mind, don’t sit home though, listen to thy soul, go out & create.

The Letter

2015-04-04 01.16.19 In life sometimes when you have travelled the distance, you have seen the world, you come to a point where some ink on paper makes an impression on your heart and deep within you feel you have travelled & you need to continue not just of yourself but for others. And sometime that “others” is not connected by blood but some relations are meant not to start with blood. The letter from someone I see as my lil brother, he’s no lil by no means, you wont call a roaring giant hungry for success lil by any means, just that its the sight of him as my brother that makes me feel a BIG brother. I never knew how it feels to have a brother, never had one, so in my journey to success I found myself being surrounded by so many people who contributed to my success and I gave part of my life for their dreams, and some people came too close to me. I saw my “if-I-had-a-real-brother” in them. Some left me hurt and for some, I do anything, will do anything to see them as SUCCESS, because why would you not do everything and anything to see your lil brother succeed. The journey continues, just that the responsibility of this lil ones dream makes me to demand so much more from myself, which I will and I know how I will. If his words printed on my heart, mine should print on Almighty’s; to give me the strength, the vision, the love – maybe tough love, the heart, the mind, the arms & the legs to get what my brother desires. For some I can fight the lion in his den and win & from some I won’t even give my thought.

Hate “IT” with PASSION

Time and again the sleeping giant within each one of us wakes up, it roars for few days and we take charge of our life, we de-clutter our closet, our life, we exercise, we watch our diet, we read, we meditate and we give life to our goals hammering it all the way through. And that feeling – the feeling of feeling great keeps us going for few days and then the air is let loose and the balloon meets the ground. And for months the Giant “sleeps”. How can we keep moving, keep achieving and enjoy that feeling of greatness forever.

When we try to balance too many things, we get unbalanced quickly and often. It takes time to acquire a new habit. While trying to adopt too many good habit, we are easy prey to life’s circumstances and fall way side, not recovering anytime soon. Versus, pick one habit, discipline yourself, enjoy the discipline, make it your friend and when its part of your life, its time to bring on a new friend – another area of your life that you want to discipline. And the answer to cementing habit at a time, how to keep going is – Hate “IT” with Passion.

Love is a great motivator but there is no better energy than HATE. Love can be superficial, you can love someone half hearted. How’s hatred?!?! Its full proof, you are completely involved when you HATE something. Now hate what you want to change, hate it with all the “passion”, tell everyone around you, how much you hate being lazy, being a spendthrift, not working out, not working hard, sleeping too much, not eating right or anything. More you hate it, more you want to crush it. And that single feeling will help you to conquer your weakness and accomplish what you want. Ready to HATE?