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Accept yourself

T he world is busy and so is the human trying to match pace with the world. Living day to day, most times going through the mundane yet necessary events in life, so many of us lose our identity. And sometimes you see those so called successful figures at work place or business world that we start feeling smaller than an ant in the grand scheme of things. I am nobody the voice within you screams. I know myself, I have so many short comings, how would I ever get to be where the successful figures are today, I am not like them.

Thank God you are not like everybody else. Imagine a world full of one kind of human. Uniqueness is what makes life interesting and explorable. Imagine a rose trying to be lily, infact imagine if there’s just one kind of flower – all lilies. For birthday, for expressing love, romance, funeral, its just lilies – wont that be monotonous? Good part is, lilies cant think, nor can a rose but Human can. And that’s where it starts. Most people either don’t think or don’t think accurately. Why worry how the other is, how about we ACCEPT ourselves as we ARE.

Accept yourself the way you are. You are perfect as you are. Just that you need to figure who you are and what’s unique about you. Moment you accept yourself and stop worrying, comparing yourself to other, you are on road to happiness. Other human’s strengths should inspire you to be a better version of YOU and not intimidate you.

Be “A Class” yourself rather than being “B Class” someone else. Stop beating yourself down. Road to prosperity starts with acceptance of self. If you are not happy where you are currently in life when it comes to success, remember success is a component of goal setting and achieving. You cant achieve if you don’t accept yourself as who you are. If you messed up, accept it, embrace yourself, pick yourself up, its just fine, go on for one more try. Just cos you didn’t perform your best one day, just cos you didn’t exercise discipline one day doesn’t give you no right to make yourself look smaller. Be happy in your skin, your imperfections are what makes you perfect. Accept and move forward.

And it broke!

11401280_10155639563425459_1440044134284288553_nAnd so I wanted to make sure my watch, old yet favorite – its funny how some old stuff is so close to your heart, sometimes the older it is more connected or should I say comfortable you are with it – does not break when I go out today to play for my team at work, you don’t want to play volleyball with your watch on, unless you want to break it. So while different thought run in my mind, what position should I play, isn’t it too hot, I mean 92 degree to play outdoors, I still carefully take off my watch and there I found out, I broke it. And I did it, no volleyball, but me.

Its that moment when you want to go back 5 seconds and save stuff. And then you smile, because you know, it was just a THING. And the bond is broken, the space is freed out so that something new can come in. A thing is a thing and can be replaced by another thing.

I wish though, relationships worked that way. You unguard your heart and let some people walk in. You develop that bond. But when some choose to move on, you wish it could be replaced, the gap could be filled in. But it does never happen that way. And its easy to wear a smile when your favorite thing breaks but worst when you have to wear a smile when you hurt within for a broken relationship so that the one who hurt you doesn’t know and the outside world doesn’t come to know, but your inside still knows. But hey, that how life is suppose to be lived – with unguarded heart. Use things, love people even though people hurt not things…

Enough of this heavy stuff, for now, I’m excited to buy a new watch. And I think I love Rolex, don’t know why!!

PROclaim first and then be the PRO

Claim that you are the best and then work it backwards. Once you have announced to the world that you are the very best at what you claim to be best at, you will dig for information, you will do whatever is necessary to keep your claim true because you know you can fool others only for so long. Most time people wait to acquire all the information, acquire all the experience before they step forward as an expert. If you don’t call yourself the best who else will? You start, other follow, but they’ll follow only for so long, and that should be enough for you to get to the best. Most times its too late, and it not that you go around lying to the world but the whole deal is that be confident in yourself that you are the very best with what you have and you will be that much better now. Once you claim you are the best, you will fight your fight to stay the best (or maybe that’s the only way you’ll get to be the best). Fear of losing your face is a good motivator for mankind.

Irony of this world is that most smart ones  are full of doubt and most fools are full of confident. Lets change that game!!

In HIS eyes You are indeed THE BEST.

KICK IT OPEN BOSS

KeysThe door to success is always open, there’s no lock, one has to just kick open it & that strong kick is your WORK. The world outside though keeps gathering keys to SUCCESS. Knowledge sure is power, learning more, knowing more is valuable but what about doing more? If someone is willing to get off their butt and put in some serious work, they will acquire the necessary knowledge as well. Just collecting the keys to success will not make you successful, it’ll make you a janitor for sure.  A complex arithmetic problem already has a solution to it, there’s no lock to be opened to get successful. You need to learn & do the basic addition, multiplication, subtraction and division, once you have learnt that & done that, work harder, think harder and you’ll make the complex arithmetic problem look easy, it has a solution to it, just searching for keys wont help.

Don’t make life complicated than its suppose to be. Start with work & what you know. Knowing more and not doing more wont get you anywhere. Know, Do & Know more. Know more, know more, know more is like pointing a gun and staying with Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Aim and never fire.

Don’t worry about it!

Take ActionI have not read one time, WORRY your way to success. If there had been any merits of worrying, I’m sure there would have been enough books written about it, enough quotes around it and it would have been one more key to the otherwise unlocked door to success. But its the worrying habit that keeps putting lock after lock after lock on that door. I wont worry about the stuff that I cant control and for the stuff that I can control why worry. If you find yourself worrying, then Don’t Worry About it!

  1. What you worrying about? Most worry arouses out of confusion. Its when one has too many choice and you don’t want to make a wrong decision. If it was one choice, there’s no thinking involved & its easy. Write down what is that you worrying about. Its the first step. Do it.  Just write.
  2. What can you do about it? If we act, half of the battle is won. Right thinking and right action leads to NO WORRY. List down what can you do based on What you know, What resources you have & Who you know. Sometimes all you need is an empty sheet of paper and pen to break down your challenge. If you can break it down on paper you will break it down in reality. So write down what possible options you have to overcome what you dealing with.
  3. Make a choice – Decide! You are more smarter, more stronger, more wiser that you think you are. Make a choice based on how you feel, what you know from past experience and what you think is apt. By all means consult a better mind (your coach, a mentor, a friend whose ahead in life) if you have one or better yet find one. But if nothing else, YOU make the decision. That’s your plan of action. You may not have a perfect plan but its 10 times better than no plan. No plan mean ALL WORRY NO ACTION
  4. Stick with your Plan – Start following your plan. Stick with it. Don’t let the initial results discourage you. Its amazing when you start working and are lost in work, you wont worry. I am too busy, I have no time for worry – Winston Churchill.

That’s the sure formula I know of overcoming your worry habit. Its a habit, it start small but eats a human at his roots if not attacked carefully. Its the empty mind that creates complication. One who is too busy doing what he needs to do, ought to do, have to do, has no time whatsoever to worry about worrying. So stop worrying start doing.

Yesterday is gone, Tomorrow is not here, Only control you have is on today. What you do today is a preparation for tomorrow, so live fully today to have a better tomorrow.

Respect YOU

UntitledPeople demand it all the time, they act different from who they are to get it : Self Respect  – often quoted but vaguely understood. So many times you see people working hard on demanding respect and its more they demand, that more they crave for it and lesser they get it.

Self respect has nothing to do with ego, just to portray yourself as tough guy, carry that intimidating personality doesn’t attract people to you. They may do what you ask them to do just out of fear, but deep within they despise you. And it doesn’t take too long for people to overcome fear, the day that fear is lost, your Dear is lost as well.

Self respect is about the respect you carry for yourself. When you respect yourself, others will see it in you, through you and respect you. When “YOU” set a goal for yourself, if you respects that “YOU”, you will give it your best to meet the goal. The respect that you have for “YOU” will determine what you will do. When you don’t have that respect for “YOU” others wont either. Do you love “YOU”, do you respect “YOU”. If you do, then others do as well. It always starts and ends with “YOU”, rest of the world is just a reflection of “YOU”.

 

Barriers – Mind Sets it, You Break it, You Redefine it.

Redefine

Its the mind that sets the barrier & its the mind that breaks it. And its the mind that defines the new limits, new barriers. But its never the same mind.Those could be the barriers in terms of what you can do at your work, what you can accomplish in your business, in terms of your fitness, in terms of having healthy relationships or how you handle criticism. We all understand that its a mind game but where to start tapping into it is always blur. Like it’s said – “The same mind that creates a problem, can never solve it, you need a better mind”. Question always is – How to get a better mind? For sure, you can reach out to the one who has the solution to your problem – that’s a better mind. But how can i house a better mind myself? Start here …

Easiest barrier the mind creates is for your body. Ever wondered, you are bored in your mind first before your body tends to be lazy?

Test your physical endurance, power & strength. Break the limits that your mind has placed on your body. Set new limits, break them and you are on your way to tapping into mind workshop of setting new limits in other areas of your life. Start with 30 mins intense activity , workout, redefine your physical limitation and watch the limit that your mind has set in other areas of your life get redefined as well. Is there a coincident that those that exercise tend to eat better, have better control on “whatiputinmymouth”, are happier, can do more, smile more. Its starts with body and redefines your mind which enriches your soul.

At the end, its all about Mind, Body, Soul. Use body as a tool for your mind to grow!! With a better mind, don’t sit home though, listen to thy soul, go out & create.

The Letter

2015-04-04 01.16.19 In life sometimes when you have travelled the distance, you have seen the world, you come to a point where some ink on paper makes an impression on your heart and deep within you feel you have travelled & you need to continue not just of yourself but for others. And sometime that “others” is not connected by blood but some relations are meant not to start with blood. The letter from someone I see as my lil brother, he’s no lil by no means, you wont call a roaring giant hungry for success lil by any means, just that its the sight of him as my brother that makes me feel a BIG brother. I never knew how it feels to have a brother, never had one, so in my journey to success I found myself being surrounded by so many people who contributed to my success and I gave part of my life for their dreams, and some people came too close to me. I saw my “if-I-had-a-real-brother” in them. Some left me hurt and for some, I do anything, will do anything to see them as SUCCESS, because why would you not do everything and anything to see your lil brother succeed. The journey continues, just that the responsibility of this lil ones dream makes me to demand so much more from myself, which I will and I know how I will. If his words printed on my heart, mine should print on Almighty’s; to give me the strength, the vision, the love – maybe tough love, the heart, the mind, the arms & the legs to get what my brother desires. For some I can fight the lion in his den and win & from some I won’t even give my thought.

Hate “IT” with PASSION

Time and again the sleeping giant within each one of us wakes up, it roars for few days and we take charge of our life, we de-clutter our closet, our life, we exercise, we watch our diet, we read, we meditate and we give life to our goals hammering it all the way through. And that feeling – the feeling of feeling great keeps us going for few days and then the air is let loose and the balloon meets the ground. And for months the Giant “sleeps”. How can we keep moving, keep achieving and enjoy that feeling of greatness forever.

When we try to balance too many things, we get unbalanced quickly and often. It takes time to acquire a new habit. While trying to adopt too many good habit, we are easy prey to life’s circumstances and fall way side, not recovering anytime soon. Versus, pick one habit, discipline yourself, enjoy the discipline, make it your friend and when its part of your life, its time to bring on a new friend – another area of your life that you want to discipline. And the answer to cementing habit at a time, how to keep going is – Hate “IT” with Passion.

Love is a great motivator but there is no better energy than HATE. Love can be superficial, you can love someone half hearted. How’s hatred?!?! Its full proof, you are completely involved when you HATE something. Now hate what you want to change, hate it with all the “passion”, tell everyone around you, how much you hate being lazy, being a spendthrift, not working out, not working hard, sleeping too much, not eating right or anything. More you hate it, more you want to crush it. And that single feeling will help you to conquer your weakness and accomplish what you want. Ready to HATE?

 

My First Blog – ST. Patrick’s Day

Sitting here at my desk, i wonder if i made the right move to start blogging. I have been trying to avoid blogging from few months since the idea first occurred to me but i have not been able to resist the idea anymore. Its funny, how that idea kept flashing infront of me – I was at San Antonio Airport and i go pick this book – “How to promote yourself” with no idea it will start talking about blogging. I ignored it and kept moving on in life, but everytime i log on to social media, i felt the urge to blog. I am no Seth Godin or Jon Acuff or any of these mega bloggers, but everyone has a start and the journey follows 🙂

So here i am starting this journey of blogging which for me means spitting the brain saliva. Hope i have some good stuff to spit that could help others while i help myself to writing my brain using the keyboard.

Its all about the journey – be it inward or outward, its always about the journey.