Your Vision, Their Sight

Somethings in life you don’t plan. You live your life, think about the things close to your heart & and there comes a perfect opportunity for you to realize what you dreamed of for so long.

Growing up, I’ve seen my family work very hard to make a good decent living. Dad being the sole earner did what he could to take care of mom, 3 daughters & a son (yeah, that’s me). He did have to toil hard to handle the weight of the family. He did well.

I’ve seen him scramble, struggle financially but never did he give up once. I still don’t know what kept him going, with little to no real support from his family, he was determined to get us kids to good life. Growing up, somewhere i carried that thought in my mind – “I’ll be your best investment, Mom & Dad”. He could have very well given up, but he didn’t.

Years forward, as the opportunity present, i made it to United States. Was that my goal growing up? No. Am i thankful, i’m in this country? Yes. Do i value America as much as i value my motherland, you bet!

Getting here wasn’t a ticket to good life. I thought it would, but it wasn’t. As software consultant, you do so called good, compared to others, but nothing in terms of the dreams i carried in my heart to payback to my family who has done so much for me.

Knowing nothing, i pursued my career, i was doing OK. Only thing i had learnt from my family is to be successful is to – Work Hard, Never Give up, Principles over Progress, Enjoy life, Never Lose a Smile and Never Ever Ever Ever Give up. Sometimes you get so busy planning the projects at work that you fail to plan your life. That’s what happened to me, I drifted in my life. I lost sight of my goal of making my family proud & paying back. I got busy and then drifted towards fun life  in this land of fun & freedom.

But God has his own way of turning things around. Never did i know meeting that one person at work, will open the flood gates to progress in my life. Ya, i wish those flood gates opened in a day. But it wasn’t like that. All i got was, “A PLAN” that God wanted me to follow. He gave me the plan and i had to work the plan. Many days of trial & error, chiseling myself, crying, wiping up tears, going at it one more time, life is much progressive today. Not only am i thankful for what i have, i’m also thankful what i am able to do with what i have.

So back to the family stuff. Seeing my dad & mom struggle throughout those years, i wanted them to reinvent themselves. In my opinion, there’s nothing better than “Giving” that will make you feel better. Charity brings in a feeling that nothing else would. I wanted my family to enjoy that feeling as well. And what better than offering sight to someone who otherwise may have fallen into the darkness of life.

I floated the idea to my dad to go country side (villages), meet few people, find the ones who need their eyes operated for cataract but aren’t able to  due to financial limitations and you take up the financial burden – ” You bridge the gap, Dad”. He said he’ll think. And i told him, if you do that, take few pics and i’ll post on Facebook and write about you. He said, what book is that. He probably will never read this, but i did what i told him, i will.

Next day, i see 3 missed calls from him.

Me: Dad – what’s up.

Dad : I have 4 people ready to get operated. I need the funds, send me the money.

Never heard so much enthusiasm in his voice. Over span for 4 weeks, i think he got some 20 operations done. My fixed budget for him, sure must have forced him to put a stop to his drive, but i am so thankful i worked evening hours and weekends for so many years on my business after my day job, to secure my finances, so that i could fund His Tiny Charity Drive.

Hearing from my mom, that Dad feels so good about himself these days, was so special. He somewhere knows he made a difference in someone’s life. For most of his life, he may have been a taker, but him being a giver today does make him feel good.  Don’t judge those hazy pics, you have no idea, i had to convince my dad to take those pics and he has no idea about pic quality, he would care less! Picture is not worth 1000 words, your action is.

I never realized when i was going thru the churn myself that one day what i’m doing will payback. i’m glad, i didn’t choose to let the opinion of the world become my reality. I don’t believe in reality, reality is for those who have no dreams to fight for. It’s a new found passion for me & Nidhi (my wife – partner in crime) to grow our business so big that we could fund bigger causes.

And here’s the man himself – My Dad & my amazing mom!!

Dedicating this post to them (they’ll probably never read) and to other hustlers out there working on their dream. You get one life, make the best of it and leave something worthwhile behind!!

And it broke!

11401280_10155639563425459_1440044134284288553_nAnd so I wanted to make sure my watch, old yet favorite – its funny how some old stuff is so close to your heart, sometimes the older it is more connected or should I say comfortable you are with it – does not break when I go out today to play for my team at work, you don’t want to play volleyball with your watch on, unless you want to break it. So while different thought run in my mind, what position should I play, isn’t it too hot, I mean 92 degree to play outdoors, I still carefully take off my watch and there I found out, I broke it. And I did it, no volleyball, but me.

Its that moment when you want to go back 5 seconds and save stuff. And then you smile, because you know, it was just a THING. And the bond is broken, the space is freed out so that something new can come in. A thing is a thing and can be replaced by another thing.

I wish though, relationships worked that way. You unguard your heart and let some people walk in. You develop that bond. But when some choose to move on, you wish it could be replaced, the gap could be filled in. But it does never happen that way. And its easy to wear a smile when your favorite thing breaks but worst when you have to wear a smile when you hurt within for a broken relationship so that the one who hurt you doesn’t know and the outside world doesn’t come to know, but your inside still knows. But hey, that how life is suppose to be lived – with unguarded heart. Use things, love people even though people hurt not things…

Enough of this heavy stuff, for now, I’m excited to buy a new watch. And I think I love Rolex, don’t know why!!

Hate “IT” with PASSION

Time and again the sleeping giant within each one of us wakes up, it roars for few days and we take charge of our life, we de-clutter our closet, our life, we exercise, we watch our diet, we read, we meditate and we give life to our goals hammering it all the way through. And that feeling – the feeling of feeling great keeps us going for few days and then the air is let loose and the balloon meets the ground. And for months the Giant “sleeps”. How can we keep moving, keep achieving and enjoy that feeling of greatness forever.

When we try to balance too many things, we get unbalanced quickly and often. It takes time to acquire a new habit. While trying to adopt too many good habit, we are easy prey to life’s circumstances and fall way side, not recovering anytime soon. Versus, pick one habit, discipline yourself, enjoy the discipline, make it your friend and when its part of your life, its time to bring on a new friend – another area of your life that you want to discipline. And the answer to cementing habit at a time, how to keep going is – Hate “IT” with Passion.

Love is a great motivator but there is no better energy than HATE. Love can be superficial, you can love someone half hearted. How’s hatred?!?! Its full proof, you are completely involved when you HATE something. Now hate what you want to change, hate it with all the “passion”, tell everyone around you, how much you hate being lazy, being a spendthrift, not working out, not working hard, sleeping too much, not eating right or anything. More you hate it, more you want to crush it. And that single feeling will help you to conquer your weakness and accomplish what you want. Ready to HATE?